As Dainty As It Gets: My Fashion Exploration I

When I’m confronted by the “what’s your style” question, I often don’t have a ready answer. Perhaps because I don’t really think about it. Often, I like dressing up as particular personas. As these personas vary, there’s really no definite label for my style except that well, if I’m forced to give it a name, I would probably say “softcore” cosplay.

Ha, forgive the innuendos conjured by those words.ย 

(Make It Complete “M.I.C.” headband, SM Department Store, PHP200)

Yesterday, I wore a lace dress with my new over-sized bow hairband to watch a play. As I had a few glances thrown my way, I asked my friend if I looked weird. Of course she said “No,” but then added that I looked like someone from an anime. I couldn’t figure out why until I got home and browsed through a Lolita page on Facebook. Huge bow and lacy dress – that is indeed a bit Lolita. I guess that’s what she meant.

(Handmade Headband, SM Department Store, PHP200)

Given that realization, I admit that I do like being Lolita. There’s this little girl inside me that defies the passing of time and mocks the responsibilities of growing up. I want to be free to enjoy the things I like, without thought to the rules of society or the dictates of authoritative figures. I want to take pleasure in the simplest things that each day brings, to throw caution to the wind, and run wild in a field of wildflowers.

This makes me sound a bit delusional, like I’m high on something. ๐Ÿ™‚

(Steam Punk dress from

This is not to say, however, that my style is indeed Lolita. Like I have said at the beginning of this post, it’s hard to confine it to a label. Take for example the sunglasses I bought recently from Forever 21. There’s nothing Lolita about it.

(Rose-patterned sunglasses, Forever 21, about PHP350)

The point I simply wish to make from these discussions is that fashion for me is a way to be free from the cages built by the various norms of society. It’s my way of expressing the various thoughts and emotions, embodied by personas, which are brewing behind the facade of normality. I’m sure the same is true for others, as well.

To end, I’d like to express my surprise at how this post turned out to be. My intention was to write a lighthearted entry showcasing my purchases this month. In contrast, it developed into a free-flowing essay on my thoughts about style. I shall make part two less heavy, then.

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this! ๐Ÿ™‚

9 thoughts on “As Dainty As It Gets: My Fashion Exploration I

  1. You’re style is more often than not frilly/lacey/flowery meets punk/s&m. so when i see in you jeans and a tee – its just slightly disturbing. haha =) love the headbands on you! super bagay


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